- Does couch time really make a difference?
- Can couch time look differently in my house?
- Does it have to take place on a couch?
- Do my children have to be in the room when we have couch time?
- Can we do couch time after the kids are in bed?
- Do we really have to do couch time?
These are just some of the questions we’ve heard through the years about couch time. Couch time is one of those concepts that is hard for some people to wrap their heads around. Although it is a simple idea, some couples struggle with how to implement it consistently in their homes. It requires adding one more thing to an already hectic schedule. In addition, couch time adds a level of vulnerability and connection that some parents have lost amidst the busyness of life. It can be uncomfortable to begin to open up again.
I want to encourage you to press through the awkwardness. Make couch time a priority even if it means removing something else from your to-do list. Set the questioning aside and just dive in and do it.
- Be creative: Be innovative about where you have couch time: it can be on a couch, at the table, or on a porch or patio. What works for your family?
- Take the time: Couch time can be in the morning before everyone heads out for the day or in the evening before the kids go to bed. Which time makes the most sense for your schedules?
- Make it a priority: Do make sure that your elementary-age and younger children can see you having couch time. Communicate the importance of couch time with your children, regardless of their ages: couch time shows them that you value a strong marriage relationship and want to keep that as a priority in your life.
I can assure you that when you take these steps to STOP and just DO couch time for ten to fifteen minutes a day, your days and evenings will go so much better. Your marriage relationship will grow stronger and your children will enjoy seeing Mom & Dad on the same page. So the next time you question, “Do we really have to do couch time?” STOP!! Be creative. Take the time. Your spouse and your children will be so thankful you did.
Cynthia Schrock was born in Ohio but grew up on the mission field with her parents in Quito, Ecuador. She married her wonderful husband Eric in 1990. They have two adult children: Ashley and Matthew. In 2016 Cynthia completed a 13 year long journey of homeschooling. Eric and Cynthia have been involved in marriage and parenting ministry over 20 years. Cynthia is a Contact Mom, helping moms with solutions in their daily parenting struggles. She has also authored a book on celebrating others called The Ultimate Gift of a Birthday.