Mommy I’m Bored! Part 2 by Susan Ekhoff

Mom I'm bored

 

The best playtimes are delightfully relational and often educational! Children are naturals at playing, but sometimes mom and dad are wise to prompt their play in constructive directions by pre-gathering ideas and supplies and creating a time and space.

 

As a mom, I have found that it helps me to start my summer with brainstorming. (See the free summer brainstorm printables at the bottom of this post.) I don’t want to be legalistic and make our brainstormed list a to-do list. But I do like the opportunity to search past the surface for deeply satisfying and relationship building activities for our family.

 

Here are some our best summer fun ideas from our family to yours:

 

Scavenger hunts

My dad created a scavenger hunt for my friends and me on my 9th birthday and I have loved them ever since. His scavenger hunt lead us all over our apartment complex to a hidden box of gold nugget bubble gum, one little white cotton sack for each of us.

The Ekhoffs love scavenger hunts. We’ve divided into teams and driven all over the city and we’ve sent the kids out with flashlights to search our property for hidden clues.

We also like the “bigger and better” version of the game. Players are divided into teams and each team selects a very small “white elephant” item from the house. Then they head out to knock on neighbors’ doors, swapping for a bigger/better white elephant give-a-away. One time the children left with a penny and returned with a home satellite dish!

Some families are fantastic at creating scavenger hunts, but if no one feels inspired there are free printables online or fun purchasables like Family Scavenger Hunt in a Box.

(Of course, activities like these may need to be overseen by older siblings or adults.)

 

Planting something

One summer when I asked, “What would you most like to do?” an Ekhoff child said, “I want to plant a watermelon.” I still have the picture of him proudly toting a medium-sized watermelon into the kitchen at the end of the summer. Watermelon never tasted so good!

 

Playing restaurant

We love this one and it makes sweet memories. The kids make and decorate menus, prepare the items on the menu (sometimes with my help) and set the table. At the appointed hour mom and dad enter and are seated at the table. They order from the menu and the waiters/waitresses and cooks go to work. The menu can include courses that are served one a time.

At the end of the meal, parents leave a tip – a kiss and big thanks, a surprise, or real cash!

We also enjoy this competitive variation: All the kids are banned from the kitchen while my husband and I each make a special dessert – this doubles as a great date night. When the kids return, the two desserts are on the counter along with ballots for judging based on presentation, originality, and of course, taste. Yummmmm!

 

Playing in a new place

One summer we set a goal to visit all the area parks with intriguing playgrounds or water parks that we had never taken time to stop and enjoy. We often took a picnic lunch and invited another family to join us.

 

Praying on-site

We loved this spiritual exercise and it helped us to invest in our church family in a fresh way. We got permission to visit our church sanctuary in the middle of the week and lingered there to pray for our congregation and pastors, walking between the pews and even kneeling at the podium.

A new Ekhoff tradition is to enjoy a series revival nights – at home. We listen to a speaker, share testimonies and pray together. Each meeting is cinched with an ice cream sundae bash!

 

Family bonding in the great outdoors

Staking a tent, building a tree house, making a bonfire, or setting up a playhouse has been the backdrop of many of our dearest family memories. Now that our children are older they make an event out of hammocking.

 

Reading

We love choosing a wonderful book(s) to read aloud in the summer. A family favorite is any of the Chronicles of Narnia. One summer the children drew pictures of their favorite scenes with fabric markers on muslin and I pieced a simple quilt to preserve the memory. (See the CFH blogs: “Read Me a Story” and “Reading Aloud, Pts. 1 – 3” for family reading ideas).

When the children were small, we sometimes had summer reading contests to see how many books we could read independently. At the end of the summer, we held an awards party and gave out certificates and prizes. Yes, this created work for me because I had to take the children to the library about once a week and come home with a back-breaking basket of 20 – 30 books at a time, enough to interest seven children of various ages and tastes. But oh, the quiet hours after that basket of books was set in the middle of the family room floor and every child gathered his/her stack into a comfy chair.

Reading a book aloud also makes a wonderful sibling date!

 

Dates

One year we read the book Making Brothers and Sisters Best Friends by Sarah, Stephen, and Grace Mally (siblings). This authors mentioned that they regularly planned dates with each other. So we gave it a try. Our oldest daughter planned a date with her little brother. They made a heart-shaped cake together and decorated it. (The whole family scarfed it down after dinner.)

When planning dates the child-in-charge gets to plan the activity. I’ve found that little kids can plan fun dates too! We still love homespun family dates.

 

Solving a mystery

This type of fun often begins with a simple question like: How do lightening bugs light up? or What’s inside a volcano? Brainstorming a hypothesis, followed by a trip to the library solves this type of fascinating inquiry. (Hint: Sometimes I have to help my children think of questions to research.)

It is also fun to solve a mystery like: Which lock does this stray key open? or Can we dig a hole to China?

Most children enjoy mystery books – anything from The Box Car Children to The Hardy Boys. Our children were captivated by the Concord Cunningham series. Concord, the boy brainiac, solves local mysteries with the help of his Bible concordance.

 

These are some of our family’s best ideas. Be sure to post your ideas in the response window below. Praying that your summer is filled with memory-making fun!

 

Mommy I’m Bored! Part 1 by Susan Ekhoff

Mom I'm bored

 

We have longed for these relaxing summer days, but from a child’s perspective, they can seem to lag. When we hear “Mommy, I’m bored!” or better yet, before we hear it, it’s wise to prepare some activities that direct our children toward wholesome play.

The purpose of play is to laugh, learn, build relationships, strengthen growing bodies, and make memories. So wholesome play is key to a child’s health and happiness. In this generation of electronic entertainment, let’s look back on some time-honored categories of satisfying play, inspired by children’s classics like Laddie: A True Blue Story, Little Women, Tom Sawyer, Anne of Green Gables, and the Little House series:

Food fun – cook for the joy of it
Make up a new recipe, decorate sugar cookies, pick blueberries, can tomatoes, surprise daddy with a picnic lunch at work, make snow cones, bake muffins, make home-made ice cream, have a tea party; play restaurant, have a dessert tasting contest, host a cookout, share a treat with a neighbor.

Solve a mystery – let curiosity rise and then search for the end of the matter
Pretend to be a frontiersman; plan a scavenger hunt; use a microscope; collect fingerprints; make disguises; hide something and play the hot/cold game; challenge yourself with a jigsaw puzzle, brainteaser, crossword puzzle or Sudoku; learn a magic trick; track animals; sleuth like a spy; read a mystery book.

Play with/in water – any activity that involves that wet, cool entity
This can be fishing, rafting, wave jumping, water guns, sticks and a stream, bubbles in the bathtub, a bucket of water and different sized cups (for toddlers), a slip and slide, a day at the lake, bathing the dog, running under a sprinkler, visiting a water park, setting up a dunk tank, or splashing in a kiddie pool.

Learn how – gain a skill
Learn how to build a birdhouse, plant a garden, make paper flowers, change a tire, bake bread, design in Adobe Photoshop, build a fire, arrange flowers, roller skate, sew on the sewing machine, care for a pet, write a book – anything that you wish you could do, or would be useful to know how to do.

Make music – enjoy sound
Dance to worship music, make homemade instruments, join a bell choir; karaoke with a microphone, start a band, have a parade, write a song, learn to play a guitar, attend a concert, tap a melody on jars filled with water, learn to sing harmony, challenge yourself on the instrument of your choice, sing to Jesus with all your heart!

Be an artist – create something beautiful
Watercolor, graphic design, weaving yarn on straws, face painting, sidewalk chalk, scrapbooking, silhouettes, model airplanes, basket weaving, printmaking, play dough, mix primary colors to make secondary ones, acrylic on canvas, puppets or masks, pressing flowers and leaves, a photo shoot, quilting, carving, stringing beads, candle making, embroidery. To show off your creations, you could host a neighborhood art show or set up a home art gallery.

Makeovers – try a new look
This could be organizing a closet, planting a wildflower garden, sewing a pillow, applying make-up, hair and nail polish, painting a room, cleaning the garage, or rearranging the furniture.

Games – fun with rules
Parlor games; baseball; chess; relay races; pick-up basketball; Candyland; freeze tag; Spades; kickball; kick the can; sardines; a backyard carnival; Mother, May I?; Hopscotch; capture the flag; soccer; ring toss; Parcheesi; Chinese Checkers; hula-hoop; seeing who can roll down the hill the fastest

Family worship – leaning into the Lord as a family
Join or host a Bible study, memorize Scripture together, hold a Hymn Sing, host a Bible Bowl, organize a neighborhood prayer walk, attend a Christian family camp or VBS, visit a church with another family, host a testimony night

Dates – plan a special time with a person you love
Serve mom breakfast in bed and cuddle with her while she eats, plan a party for family night, bake cookies with your little sister, read aloud to each other, go to lunch with Dad, do a craft together, make popcorn and watch a movie, hike the beach or woods together

Missions/volunteering – sacrifice or serve so that someone else will be blessed
Earning money for water wells, serving lunch at a homeless shelter, writing a letter to someone in the military, praying for Brazilian street children, taking muffins to the neighbor with a new baby, building a casita, mowing the lawn of an elderly neighbor

A day away – break-up the routine
Visit the zoo, the pool, the park, a local landmark, a museum, etc. Go camping or shopping.

Make-believe – be someone else just for the adventure of it
Become a prairie girl, superhero, cowboy, American Girl, G.I. Joe, mommy for baby dolls, movie star, Bible character, astronaut, repairman, firefighter, train conductor, singer – anything that you can imagine!

Widen your horizons – get immersed in another place or perspective
Read, read, read, memorize a poem, invite someone to tell about a place they have visited (almost as good as going yourself), research places named on a map, invite a foreign exchange student to live in your home, study a language, visit a family or church that speaks a different language, pray for the nations with a book or study guide like You Can Change Your World, learn to count in another language.

Build a clubhouse – build and inhabit a base for adventures
A tree house, a “house” outlined with pine needle borders, a hideout under the bushes, a refrigerator box, a tent (which could be as simple as a blanket thrown over the kitchen table or as sophisticated as a Coleman pop-up), a dollhouse, a fort, a hideout, a clubhouse, a place to hammock, a campsite. When it’s all set up, make-believe, hold a meeting, write a story – maybe even eat and sleep there!
More childhood favorites: Legos and Duplos, Lincoln Logs, gumdrops and toothpicks, K’nex, gears, popsicle sticks and low-temp hot glue, Erector Sets, wooden blocks

Collecting – gather and examine anything that seems fascinating
This could be as simple as collecting stuff (rocks, seashells, baseball cards, stamps, etc.) or as involved as family genealogy – the ideas are endless!

Entrepreneurism – adventures in making money
Set up a lemonade stand, publish your own newspaper, sell things at a yard sale or on Craig’s List, babysit, plan a bake sale, start a small business, provide a service, raise money for a good cause.

I hope this classic overview sparks some summer fun at your house. In part 2 of “Mommy, I’m Bored!” I will share some of our family’s favorite summer memory makers. Please consider submitting your family’s best boredom-buster ideas in the comments section at the bottom of this post. Here’s to giggly, good times!

Covering Your Husband in Prayer: Before, Beside and Behind

posted in: Dads, Marriage, Mom 1

 

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Wives, have you ever thought about the role God has placed our husbands in?  He has set our men up as leaders in our homes.  He has given them the role of being our protectors and providers.  He has asked them to set the standard of love in our homes.  Regardless of how your family functions and delegates household tasks, God has given great responsibility to husbands and fathers.  As wives, there are many ways that we can support our husbands in those great responsibilities.  I love to talk with other wives about how they carry out their role as a helpmate.  Many of those ways are the roll-up-your-sleeves kind of support.  We can provide a peaceful haven for him to come home to.  Cook his favorite foods.  Give him time to unwind at the end of the day.  Meet his needs for love in a way that he receives it best. Oh, my heart flip flops when I think of the many ways we can help and encourage our men to be the best leaders in the home possible!   However, I know I often turn to the physical things I can do and often neglect the spiritual ways I can support him.  God has impressed upon me lately that I need to be a prayer warrior on behalf of my husband.  As I’ve been more intentional about my prayer support, God has impressed upon my heart three ways to cover my husband in prayer: Before, Beside, and Behind.

Before.  We can cover our husbands in prayer before they face battles, asking God to go ahead of them.  I clearly remember a season that I failed to go before my husband in prayer.  As a self-employed contractor, my husband naturally experiences slower times of the year.  Last year, however, his slow season was coupled with a foot surgery.  We knew we were looking at my part-time church staff salary to be our only income for about 6 weeks.  I remember thinking in advance, and often worrying about, how hard that season would be for my husband.  He’s not a guy who likes to sit still, nor does he take lightly his role to provide for his family.  I often found myself worrying what that winter would be like.  I looked for ways to encourage, but I missed the opportunity to battle in prayer.  I saw the challenging season on the horizon and turned to worry rather than prayer.  I missed the opportunity to go to battle before the challenging season even arrived.  As a wife, you know what battles loom for your husband.  Maybe there is a portion of his day that is always the most difficult.  Maybe there’s a day of the week that he struggles with.  Maybe it’s a big meeting, a difficult relationship, or an upcoming event.  Whatever is looming on the horizon, let it be an opportunity to go to battle on your husband’s behalf before the battle even begins.

Beside.  By beside, I mean right beside.  Pray beside your husband – out loud.  It’s easy to tell my husband, “I’ll pray for you.”  It’s entirely another thing to grab his hands and pray with him right then.  There is so much power in praying out loud together.  I don’t know if anything has strengthened our marriage like prayer has.  While you’re at it, invite the kids to join in as well.  It shows them your commitment to the journey as well as teaches them to trust in the Lord when difficult situations arise.  My husband does a better job with this than I do.  When he knows I’m facing something difficult, he’ll gather the kids around me and they will pray for me.  I never walk away from those times of prayer without feeling strengthened, not to mention loved, appreciated, and supported.  Praying beside my husband is a growing edge for me, but the more I seize those moments, the easier and more natural it becomes.  Look for ways this week to pray beside your husband.

Behind.  The last vantage point of praying for my husband is praying behind, or bringing closure to a season, situation, or event in prayer.  Often praying behind my husband means giving God thanks for the ways He has been at work.  It’s thanking God for answered prayer.  It’s a praise offering to God for what He has done in a season, a situation, or the ongoing journey of my husband’s life.  We can’t forget to acknowledge the great things God is doing in our husbands and celebrate those things.  Occasionally, though, praying behind means surrendering a dream, a request, a situation that didn’t turn out as we had hoped.  In these times, praying behind means that I need to surrender to His will.  It may be asking God to show us what He wants us to learn.  It might mean recommitting to trust Him even when we don’t understand all that He’s allowing.  Regardless of what you’re facing, praying behind our husbands is acknowledging God’s sovereignty and giving Him full surrender of our lives.

Before, Beside, and Behind.  How will you cover your husband in prayer this week?

 

 

Jamie Wyse is a Contact Mom for Christian Family Heritage and lives in Ohio.

Parents and Their Social Obligation

ParentsandTheirSocialObligationWe live in a world where it seems everything and everyone is connected. A decision made in Moscow, Washington, or Beijing can have a ripple effect on the rest of the world for years to come. This is called the “trickle down effect.” However, the same effect works in reverse. Changes at the most fundamental levels of society, such as the family and communities, can “trickle up” to the rest of society. In truth, both forces are constantly engaged, pushing back and forth on each other, like the tide’s ebbing and flowing. Neither has the strength to overcome the other without substantive change in the structure of one or the other.

Since the family is still the values-generating institution of the society, parents serve as social engineers of each subsequent generation. . . but who will influence the engineers? Should society dictate family values or reflect them? Trickle down, or trickle up? Whatever measurable influence parents are willing to surrender, or seize, will become either the curse or blessing their children must live with in the future. Thus, it all comes back to the strategic role parents play in shaping society.

Parents also have a social obligation to the welfare of their Nation, and therefore, must stay cognizant of the truth that what they are doing in the home will have an influence beyond their front porch. Growing Families and Christian Family Heritage recognizes this life-force principle, and will continue to encourage parents to be influencers for good, and advocates of all that is noble, pure, lovely and true.

If free governments are truly of the people, by the people and for the people, than the citizenry, at the most fundamental level, must accept responsibility for their society, rather than the society accepting responsibility for the people. In order to achieve and maintain social harmony, families and society are best served by a collective moral conscience. While the very nature of a “free” society may not allow for common values, it’s very freedom is dependent upon a moral consensus of common virtue. Without virtue, good values are only relative, to whoever is defining “good.” To the extent that virtue is removed from the citizenry, so also is an equal measure of freedom. Everything comes back to parenting.

 

This article used with permission from Growing Families International.  More parenting articles are available at www.growingfamiliesusa.com.

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