This tool is a key for your child’s security.

You as the head of your home have a great opportunity to initiate this. It is as simple as spending 10 minutes each day on the couch talking with your wife. Not only simple, but enjoyable and so important to your children and family.

This simple act shows your children in a concrete way the love that you have for your wife and her love for you. This is what helps to build security in the heart of your child: the knowledge that mom and dad love each other.

What a wonderful gift to give your children.

The best thing about First Time Obedience is that it is objective. You don’t have to wait until you have had it to react. Boundaries are clearly established and when the boundary is crossed by the child, action is taken by the parent.

FTO gets to the heart. It encourages a child to submit to the parent’s God given authority.

FTO obedience is easy for a child when it consistently expected by the parent.

Teach your children to come to you when you call their name and to respond ‘Yes Daddy I am coming’.  When they arrive give them the instruction which should be followed by another ‘Yes, Daddy’.

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When children function inside the funnel much of the frustration of the day is eliminated – both for parent and for the child.

The purpose of the funnel is to make the child’s world (at whatever age) small enough so that they can handle it with responsible behavior.

This principle applies whether you have a toddler or a teen.