TO LOVE THEIR HUSBANDS
Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can train the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. Titus 2:3-4
Ephesians 5:33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
ABC’s of Honoring My Husband
Always encourage and uplift him
Bless him with great kindness
Count blessings & control spending!
Discipline, raise, and train his children
Enjoy him immensely
Give him a happy home
Help him, hold him, hug him!
Indulge in praising him
Joyfully join his ideas and dreams
Keep growing spiritually
Love him unconditionally & laugh often
Maintain order with a merry heart
Openly admire him
Pray fervently for him
Quickly listen and slowly speak
Satisfy him & search for ways to please him
Think about what he does right & thank him
Unite with him & begin to understand him
Visit with him
Willingly submit to his way
X exercise to stay in shape for him
Yes let’s! Instead of no, or not now
Zealously serve him
Most Commonly Asked Questions of Contact Moms
Q: My 16 month old seems to have forgotten everything I have been teaching her. Am I doing something wrong?
A: Actually, your 16 month old is demonstrating that she is becoming her own person and what you are experiencing is the ‘nature’ of your child. In the mind of a 16 month old, life is “all about me”. As mentioned in both Preparation for the Toddler Years and On Becoming Pre-Toddlerwise, your goal as a parent is to “not worry about gaining ground (behavioral speaking) but rather focus on not loosing ground” [setting right goals] During this time a pre-toddler will challenge the established boundaries and your authority, so it is up to Dad & Mom to make sure those boundaries and your parental authority are enforced. Parenting is an ongoing process and repetition is important as you train a child of this age. It would be helpful to review the teaching on “The Funnel”. Is your daughter taking more freedoms than she’s capable of handling at this point in her life? If so, taking appropriate measures to bring her back in the funnel will help in ‘not losing ground’ that was established in the first year of her life. There are also many parenting ‘tools’ to be found through taking the next age appropriate parenting class [The Toddlerhood Transition] or reading the next On Becoming book. Stay consistent in planting the seeds of obedience in your child’s heart (begin as you mean to go) and in due time the beautiful harvest will come.
Love: to be pleased with; to regard with affection.
“Dear Friends, let us love one another, for love comes from God. Everyone who loves has been born of God and knows God.” 1 John 4:7
How can you show love to your husband today?
“I believe love is a choice” … these were the words of a young woman who was announcing her engagement! Though the words are true, in the context of her life as a soon to be bride, the statement was unexpected. Thinking back to my own ‘pre-marriage’ days, I don’t recall having to ‘choose’ to love my soon to be husband, it seemed to be the natural thing to do. Yet, in reality, everyday we choose to love and everyday we choose not to love. Who would have thought we (wives, old or young) would have to be instructed [in Scripture] to love our husbands? The Bible so often speaks of love, God knew that at times loving would be challenging for mankind. All Christians are commanded to love others. Love is to be given even when nothing is given in return. Our example is found in Jesus Christ’s sacrificial love for us. Our love for others is our love response back to God. Others will know we are Christians by our love, so ‘choose’ love today. John 13:34-35 – A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another. By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.
Honoring & Reverencing Your Husband
Anne Marie Ezzo presents the Scriptural basis that encourages women to show reverence to their husbands. Sharon Carter gives practical ‘how-to’s’ to enhance the marriage relationship. This discussion gives special attention and help to those who find themselves in a position where respecting their husbands may be difficult to do. To purchase click here.
THOUGHTS FROM THE BOARD
If you happen to skip over the ABC’s, please go back, read them and then evaluate how you are doing with each one. Join us in the challenge of viewing all the things we do from day to day as a way to serve our husband. It is amazing how the mundane can take on new life when viewed as a way to bless the one you love! So how can a woman love her husband? Arranging her day to make sure those things happen. Do you know his love language? Be sure to speak it to him daily. Does he know that you respect him? Tell him with words and show him by your actions. Words of affirmation are important regardless of his love language. Become his biggest fan. Offer many words of encouragement. When a husband knows his wife believes in him, he is better equipped to handle whatever lies in front of him. Be available / be encouraging / be supportive, making his home a place of peaceful refuge.